As I look around, I have come to realize a number of things Christians need to stop doing when it comes to apologetics. I am not perfect and boy oh boy do I mess these up sometimes, but my hope is that by the end of the article you will have realized an area you can improve your apologetic.
1.) You’re ONLY Doing Apologetics
Apologetics is great, but without the Gospel it is useless. The only productive thing that can be accomplished is debating if you’re well versed in apologetics but not sharing your faith. The apologetic information of the Christian has the power that it does because of the message of Jesus Christ. It has nothing to do with building strong, awesome arguments, but it has everything to do with the love of Jesus and his atonement for our sins on the cross.
2.) You Don’t Love the People You’re Talking To
Like #1 said, apologetics has everything to do with the love of Christ. Sometimes, utilizing apologetics can hurt, confuse, or offend the person that you’re talking to. As Christians, we know that what we are telling them is true, but if there is no love in the message, we will fail to communicate effectively. All love without truth is hypocrisy, and all truth with no love is brutality. The people you are talking to will sense this, and it will immediately become a turn-off that will turn their listening ears off and could potentially harden their hearts.
3.) You Use It to Boost Your Pride
This is a major no-go from God in everything, not just apologetics. In reality, using apologetics and sharing the Gospel is all about laying your pride aside and sharing the truth in love no matter what the cost is to you whether that’s losing your job, friends, possessions, or status. Plain and simple.
4.) You Don’t Use It to Share the Gospel
Using apologetics is great. Paul himself used as he said he reasoned in the Temple with the elders; however, Paul wasn’t reasoning with them simply for the sake of doing so or passing the time. He did it so that he could share the Gospel and communicate the Gospel more effectively with those around him. That is the purpose of apologetics; it was meant to go hand-in-hand with evangelism.
5.) You Don’t Use It
6.) You Don’t Think It’s For You
Allow me to blunt, so strap on you big boy/girl pants: If you do not think that apologetics is “for you” then you’re clearly not sharing the Gospel with people or interacting with unsaved people at all. If you are interacted with unsaved people and you’ve never had to use some sort of apologetics tactics or knowledge, you’re probably not taking your conversations with them past “Hi, how are ya?” These days you cannot avoid it, and if you are, this should raise serious concerns about how you’re practicing evangelism to the rest of the world around you.
7.) You Think It’s An Argument
If you’re in a conversation and are using apologetics, but you think it’s a argument, then you’re probably doing #1 incorrect as well. Using apologetics in a conversation is not something that you win or lose at; it’s just incorporating it into your conversations. We should not be aiming to beat another person down or to “win”; our aim should be sharing the Good News with them! If your aim is off, that means you’re striking out on #1 and #4.
8.) You Don’t Practice Conversation
Having all that information floating around in your head is like having an open fire hydrant: water is flowing with no direction. Without practicing these conversations in your mind, it’s impossible to direct, channel, and refine the information we are using in our conversations. Practicing using the information through imaginary conversations in your mind is like putting a fire hose on the fire hydrant: it allows you to pin point precisely how you want and would use the information you know in a real life conversation.